“I am not a teacher – only a fellow traveler of whom you asked the way. I pointed ahead – ahead of myself as well as you”
George Bernard Shaw.
My life stopped being normal after Simon died on 11th September 2001. Everything changed. In fact, I now call it Life 1 and Life 2. As I stood in the footprint of the World Trade Centre six months later, I hoped that Simon had had the life that he had chosen and not the one that was expected of him. I promised myself in that moment that my Life 2 should reflect this and so I promised myself to create the life that I wanted to live and to help others do the same for themselves.
So I took all the things I loved from Life 1 which was my coaching work that I had done for many years in my HR career and I added all my experiences since 9/11 and I mixed it all together so I could take it forward as a business in a life affirming way.
I could see that all the skills I had picked up through my life had been great until I came face to face with Simon’s death and then they felt completely useless. My toolbox of life skills was not packed for emergencies and it didn’t take long to realize that I had to find new skills to help me cope and survive an experience I had never faced before. I took time to look at my life tools and some I threw out, some I polished up or sharpened and I brought some brand new ones in. Only then could I begin to face the task of handling life 2.
Now I take this experience and I use it in all the work that I do with others. I give talks and coach clients in many areas including illness, career change, divorce, financial issues, mid life crises and redundancy to name a few.
I help people to find new tools to help them face new challenges in life and I help them to choose their way through these experiences, so they can create their own path wherever it may take them.
I love my work and I say thank you every day for the privilege.